When people relapse after a period of being sober it is greatly disheartening.
If you manage to stop yourself immediately, you can prevent yourself from falling deeper into your initial addiction It is a slip not a relapse.
Yet, most of the time an individual will fully return to active addiction. Some people will never get another opportunity to find sobriety. It is very important that extreme effort is made to elude relapse since it can be deadly to many. A return to addiction doesn't usually happen out of the blue. Instead, there are normally warning symptoms of what is about to happen. You can avoid the problem if you can just notice the signs early enough.
When a person is about to relapse, some of the signs may include: Isolation: this is the stage when the individual begins to stay away from other people.
They begin to keep secrets and even tell lies. Those that go to AA gatherings might stop doing it or they might not feel the desire to share.
The feeling of being stuck in recovery: People feel that they are no longer making any progress, therefore, they become frustrated.
Lack of concern in recovery: As if they have run out of motivation or just a lack of interest individuals no longer do the vital things that ensure they stay sober.
Resentment: The person may start to fault those around them if life in recovery isn't going as they had planned. These feelings provide people the excuses they need to return to alcohol or drugs.
Disowning of difficulties: Disowning the fact that one is experiencing problems in life away from addiction, is the most awful thing during recovery. They will not be able to keep up this act for long even if they get to convince other people. The recovery process can be seriously hampered by any issue that isn't resolved.
Stinking thinking: this is the time when people adopt a negative attitude about their lives away from addiction. It is as if they are trying to get an excuse to relapse.
Overconfidence: A well known saying should always be in your mind that the pride comes before fall. Setting up for disaster may the result for individuals who are overconfident about their recovery. It may result in self-satisfaction, and before even realizing what has happened people can be back in the hub of addiction. Former addicts are most vulnerable when they become feeling overconfident because recovery demands commitment.
Feeling unable to cope: an imminent relapse often exhibits signs of the individual not coping with the recovery. Individuals are unable to think logically because they feel overcome. A yearning to elude the uneasiness simply leads people back to addiction.
Romancing about drink or drug-: This is when the people begin to recall the times they felt happy as a substance abuser. They may begin to crave for these lost days. The Past can seem far rosier than it actually was as the memory plays tricks on people. Even the memory of trying their best to get away from the addiction maybe lost.
Addiction substitution: the individual makes an attempt to escape from their difficulties during the recovery by adopting fresh maladaptive behaviours. Exercising excessively or becoming obsessed with their job might be involved in it. Another mind-changing substance might be the choice of some people.
Acting drunk without drinking: People do not alter their behaviour regardless of no longer drinking. Such individuals may relapse more easily as they have a weak dedication to sobriety.
Spending time with the old crowd: It can be highly dangerous if the individuals move back to spending time with their old drinking or drug using chaps. Group pressure can influence individuals into relapse if they have a fragile recovery.
Going to drinking places: If a person has a strong reason to be in a bar and a solid recovery as well, then it doesn't have to be dangerous. If, however, people go to these drinking places so they can get indirect satisfaction from looking at other people drinking, then it can be very dangerous. Loneliness is also not a good reason for you to visit these places. In AA they say that you will definitely get your haircut if you sit in a barber shop long enough.
In the relapse process setting is where we can comprehend the signs cautioning a return to addiction.
This is a series of steps, which describe the happenings among people before the relapse. Prior to using the drugs or alcohol, the process originates in a person's mind. Every individual is not likely to experience these precise steps, but it often provides useful description of the manner in which things can be expected to happen. The relapse process involves these stages:
1. Progress in recovery comes to a stop or just a slow shuffle.
This is usually the case when people are faced with challenges because they get the feeling that they will be unable or are unwilling to deal with them. They make attempts to ignore the signs that they are not making any recovery. Life gets uncomfortable due to the lack of progress. In order to deal with this, the individual turns to maladaptive coping techniques. Although it is easy for an individual to hide their internal uneasiness, it nonetheless continues to build up unrecognized.
The internal discomfort will rise to the surface whenever it gets an opportunity or a trigger event provides it an opportunity. Since these issues have been building up for a long time, a simple argument could result in an overreaction even if the argument is over something trivial. Increased emotional turmoil may be experienced by the individual. This is usually the type of discomfort, which would have at one time let them to abuse substances as it would have seemed as the best option. One may feel susceptible to these emotions after achieving sobriety. Thinking rationally and going on with a regular life becomes much more difficult because of this internal discomfort.
Other people may find the emotional unrest more obvious. The individual may seem disconcerted or irate. They might start acting unpredictably. The individual who has gotten to this point will discontinue any efforts to maintain sobriety.
The individual no longer feels in control and is overcome. They devote a lot of time to thinking about how drugs or alcohol once permitted them to escape life's problems. The motivation to remain sober is presently not significant enough to prevent them from relapsing.
People may need to take action through the following steps if they spot the warning signs of an impending relapse:
Focus on the reasons why they get rid of their addiction as well as their aspirations and expectations in recovery. If they have been maintaining a journal, it would be a good idea for them to go back and read the journal. You main priority at this point should be how you're going to stay clean. Until you feel a little more grounded in the recovery process, you should make everything else a secondary consideration. Don't make any big changes or take on new responsibilities at this point in time.
Talk to someone who you know is willing to listen and will provide you with the support you need to avoid a relapse. If the individual belongs to a 12 step group, their sponsor will be the appropriate authority whom they should be turning to. It is suggested to those that have a therapist to schedule an urgent meeting. If you have left the rehab recently they would definitely have an opportunity to contact someone out there. Not being alone and talking with others is very crucial at this time. Attend fellowship meetings more often during this period in case you're a member of one. We strongly recommend them to share their concerns while discussing at these meetings.
Former drinking and drug using friends should be completely avoided during this time. People who are feeling vulnerable should be looking forward to staying away from places where alcohol is served because they are after all recovering addicts. Making a wrong move at some point during your recovery is what causes people to relapse. Go back over everything you've done and see where you went wrong. A therapist or an individual who is highly reputable in their own recovery can be immensely beneficial to conduct this investigation with. Now is the right time to read motivational recovery material. Individuals might be inspired to stay sober by this. People can also utilize dependency recovery resources that can be found on the Internet. Look out addiction helplines that are available any time of the day or night.
If the individual is feeling vulnerable to relapse, he or she should be considering using one of these help lines.